“Ablation” (definition/meaning, e.g. Merriam-Webster dictionary): a) surgical removal; b) loss or removal of a part (such as ice from a glacier or the outside of a nose cone)[…]. In their support of my difficulties at the retreat due to the recent ending of the relationship with the gender-expansive gay guy with whom I had hookedContinue reading “Relational ablation”
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Finding “my people”
This weekend’s retreat with the gay men’s chorus was a lot. Overall, it wasn’t as difficult or as emotionally overwhelming or upsetting to me as the first one had been, in October, when I was still a complete newbie and really struggling socially with this group of people that was still so foreign to me. Continue reading “Finding “my people””
A hole is a space you can fill
On Monday evening, a relationship that I cared about, or hoped for, ended. In reality, in my own head & heart, that relationship had ended already the previous week. In fact, on Sunday, foreseeing a difficult conversation with the gender-expansive gay guy from the chorus and ensuing “emotional wreck” state for me, I reached outContinue reading “A hole is a space you can fill”
Rejection — Punch in the stomach
Rejection feels like a punch in the stomach to me. Every time. It never gets easier. It hurts like hell every time, no matter how often it has happened to me, no matter how prepared I might be for it. Even when I know it’s going to hit — like I did yesterday evening —Continue reading “Rejection — Punch in the stomach”
More good news this week!
Although these aren’t the only issues at stake right now, we must celebrate the good news that we do have: – One Colorado is reporting that The True Center and Denver Health are to reinstate gender-affirming care for youth in Colorado!!!!!!!! (Big thanks to One Colorado and CO Attorney General Phil Weiser!) And: – “DemocratsContinue reading “More good news this week!”
“Routines in the night”
“ Walk the layout, routines in the night Some doors have “stay out” spray painted in white While all the world’s asleep, I walk around instead Through the memories, down the halls of my head Walk the layout, routines in the night Some doors have “stay out” spray painted in white While all the world’sContinue reading ““Routines in the night””
The risk of a terrible sense of impunity
One of the things that worries and upsets me the most about the current political situation and new government is not only the awful, backward, discriminatory laws, which are terrible and horrible in & as of themselves. It’s also the sense of impunity and license that the government’s laws, words, attitudes will give — andContinue reading “The risk of a terrible sense of impunity”
My monsters come out at night
Valentine’s Day is right up there with Christmas as far as “days that I hate the most” go. As a single aromantic person Valentine’s Day, and often the weekend around it, is basically hell for me. But this year the whole weekend around Valentine’s Day turned out to be really lovely. On Thursday, Feb. 13th,Continue reading “My monsters come out at night”
Feb. 14th: some more breaking good news
Direct quote from Erin Reed’s email: “Breaking good trans news: A federal judge sides with Washington, Oregon, and Minnesota and has just blocked Trump’s anti-trans executive order banning care under the age of 19 via a temporary restraining order. This is the second federal judge in a row to conclude that the President’s threat toContinue reading “Feb. 14th: some more breaking good news”
Feb. 13th news: The light of resistance shines on
Sharing some good (at least temporary/partial) news: Federal judge blocks Trump order on health care for transgender youth (WaPo) Federal judge pauses President Trump’s order restricting gender-affirming care for trans youth (AP) This is a ‘temporary restraining order’ which goes into effect blocking enforcement of the executive order (withholding funds) before the case could getContinue reading “Feb. 13th news: The light of resistance shines on”
The Little Prince and the Fox 