“ Hello thoughts, you’re not me You’re just birds seeking shelter In my mind like a tree “
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Do animals really know when they’re about to die?
[Trigger warnings: aging, dying, death.] Do animals really know when they’re about to die? I don’t want to go into the scary details here, but the physical and mental decline that I have been experiencing over the past year feel more than just the “natural decline that starts in the fourth decade of life”. I’mContinue reading “Do animals really know when they’re about to die?”
“… we’re all terminal on this bus”
[Trigger warnings: terminal illness; death; loss.] From Anne Lamott’s book Bird by bird [chapter Writer’s Block]: “ I remind myself nearly every day of something that a doctor told me six months before my friend Pammy died. This was a doctor who always gave me straight answers. When I called on this one particular night,Continue reading ““… we’re all terminal on this bus””
“Some instructions on writing and life”
“On a bad day you […] don’t need a lot of advice. You just need a little empathy and affirmation. You need to feel once again that other people have confidence in you.” “A big heart is both a clunky and a delicate thing; it doesn’t protect itself and it doesn’t hide. It stands out,Continue reading ““Some instructions on writing and life””
“August in Waterton, Alberta”
“ Above me, wind does its best to blow leaves off the aspen tree a month too soon. No use wind. All you succeed in doing is making music, the noise of failure growing beautiful. “ [Poem August in Waterton, Alberta by Bill Holm]
The comfort & safety of sleepovers
The other aspect of sleepovers that I miss and crave, and sometimes really need, is the sense of comfort and safety that I get from them. They are comforting in a deep way to me, dating back to my childhood. I grew up in a family in which I didn’t feel seen and whereContinue reading “The comfort & safety of sleepovers”
The intimacy of sleepovers
The gender-expansive guy with whom I hooked up in the chorus & I both feel that our interactions have been “more than just hooking up”: we like each other and want to really build a friendship, leaving open the possibility of being “friends with benefits” further down along the road. “Friendship with benefits” is somethingContinue reading “The intimacy of sleepovers”
Feb. 7th, 2025: An inspiring piece of news
“The Proud Boys’ trademark now legally belongs to the Metropolitan African Methodist Episcopal Church in Washington, D.C. NPR’s Juana Summers talks with Rev. William Lamar IV about what comes next.” [NPR, Feb. 7th, 2025]
I wish I weren’t trans
Baby blue, pink, and white. I wish I could fit in a box. I wish I could shower safely at the gym. I wish there were a changing room for me at the rec center. I wish I could compete fairly, as myself, as an athlete. I wish I could travel safely. I wish myContinue reading “I wish I weren’t trans”
Feb. 6th, 2025: News Dump
[Trigger warning: massive transphobia] Sorry that I haven’t gone through this in more detail or sorted it better, but this needs to be put out there. Please just pick one and read. I’m going to put the “good news” first because I think we need it more than ever now. Trans Formations Project Weekly LegislativeContinue reading “Feb. 6th, 2025: News Dump”
The Little Prince and the Fox 