For seven years, from 2008/2009 to 2015/2016, I was together with someone who was my sexual, “romantic”, and nesting partner. We met in grad school through our common group of friends and got together the last year of our PhD. We moved in together after about a year of being sexually involved with each otherContinue reading “The lesser of two evils”
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What am I doing here?
What am I doing here, on this Earth? It’s not even noon, I’ve gone out for my run, showered, and had a hearty brunch (all by myself) and now the best part of my day is over. I’ve got nothing left to do. Nothing that feels meaningful, at least. Is that because I’ve been unemployedContinue reading “What am I doing here?”
We need to save our democracy!
Experts discuss the peril in which our American democracy finds itself: https://www.npr.org/2025/05/18/1252312214/us-competitive-autocracy
Depression — The horrific state of the world
I’m gong through a bout of depression. It’s circumstantial but it’s real. The horrific bill that was passed in the House last week was probably the last straw, maybe because it’s one of the most all-encompassing measures of disaster and discrimination and abomination, such a widespread, all-encompassing measure of hatred and evil. I’m worried. I’mContinue reading “Depression — The horrific state of the world”
Loneliness and fatigue
For the past couple weeks, I’ve been struggling with bouts of extreme fatigue and loneliness, and the past week it’s gotten worse. They seem to go hand in hand, these two feelings. Although one is physical (the extreme fatigue, including dizziness, sometimes even when I’m sitting or lying) and one is emotional (the loneliness), theyContinue reading “Loneliness and fatigue”
A mistake but not necessarily wrong
“ Lomeli said in a low voice, “Did I do the right thing, Vincent? What is your opinion?” “No one who follows their conscience ever does wrong, Your Eminence. The consequences may not turn out as we intend; it may prove in time that we made a mistake. But that is not the same asContinue reading “A mistake but not necessarily wrong”
My people — Queering relationships
Four guys in a picture. Four smiling young men. The fifth is the one with the good camera and photographer skills, taking the picture. One is Russian of Ukrainian ethnicity; one is French with a German surname; one is part Italian, part American, part English, part German. They’re different heights, different builds; they have differentContinue reading “My people — Queering relationships”
The big horrific bill
Reposting a message from One Colorado: “While most of us were sleeping, Colorado’s Republican Representatives voted for the U.S. House budget bill that proposes to slash over $700 billion from healthcare and Medicaid, harming hundreds of thousands of Coloradans to help subsidize tax breaks for the wealthy and big corporations. While this bill is beingContinue reading “The big horrific bill”
Trust: the most fundamental form of love
We were swinging freely almost twenty meters above the ground. The 9-mm climbing rope went through the two rappel rings at the top, 100 feet up from the ground, a “free-hanging rappel”, i.e. a lowering technique where there are no walls around or adjacent to you: you’re lowering from what is basically a hole inContinue reading “Trust: the most fundamental form of love”
Friendship: “Highway Queen”
This is how I feel about, or one way I would describe, true friendship: “ Well, there’s only a few pines left by the highway side And they all whistle as the wind rips straight through your pride Baby, it’s only your eyes and mine And this darkness that grows in time Oh, ‘cause youContinue reading “Friendship: “Highway Queen””
The Little Prince and the Fox 