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Centennial of the LGBTQ+ rights movement in the U.S.

In these dark moments, more than ever we need to remember and celebrate the accomplishments and never forget the past, so here’s an excerpt from an article in LGBTQ Nation:  “ The centennial celebration of the Society for Human Rights is also the centennial of the official movement for LGBTQ+ equality in the United States. Continue reading “Centennial of the LGBTQ+ rights movement in the U.S.”

A new kind of “boys night out”

Last night I went to the movie theatre (for the first time since COVID!) with one of my fellow baritone singers from the gay men’s chorus and his partner (both cis-men) and a cis-woman friend of theirs. After initial introductions and small talk, we went to get drinks & food for the show and whileContinue reading “A new kind of “boys night out””

About a foot in length

[Trigger warnings: surgical/anatomical details.] A little over three weeks ago, I had a surgical procedure to cut out & remove the Fallopian tubes from my lower abdomen (salpingectomy). Each Fallopian tube is on average between 10 – 14 cm (3.9 – 5.5 in) in length, with an external diameter of ~1 cm (~0.39 in). That’s almost half a footContinue reading “About a foot in length”

“Miss you, bro.”

“How are things going for you? Miss you, bro.” Text message that one of my cis-het male climbing buddies sent me yesterday.  It is messages like this one — messages and calls and visits from friends; walks&talks, lunch or coffee/tea, and movie nights with friends; all the gestures of affection and care, all the qualityContinue reading ““Miss you, bro.””

“From Eden”

Playing in my mind this morning: “ BabeThere’s something tragic about youSomething so magic about youDon’t you agree? BabeThere’s something lonesome about youSomething so wholesome about youGet closer to me No tired sighs, no rolling eyes, no ironyNo ‘who cares’, no vacant stares, no time for me Honey, you’re familiar like my mirror years agoIdealismContinue reading ““From Eden””

Befriending my (new) body (again)

[Trigger warnings: dysphoria; scars & scar tissue.] I’m feeling tender. But more aligned with myself. The dysphoria is finally easing its grip on my mind.  The surgical glue has fully come off from the three incisions on my lower abdomen: one right under my belly-button and one on each side, just above my hip bones.Continue reading “Befriending my (new) body (again)”

Protecting my boy as he steps into his own manhood

One of my closest nonbinary friends says gender is a social construct.  So much of our identities in general depend on the social messaging that we get from the day we’re born.  I was definitely given lots of toxic messaging as I was growing into myself — not simply for not being allowed to liveContinue reading “Protecting my boy as he steps into his own manhood”

Meeting people where they’re at

Yesterday I had planned to meet up & hang out with the gender-expansive gay guy from the chorus with whom I’ve hooked up in order to have a clarifying conversation about our “friendship”. I knew what I wanted to ask him, what I wanted to say, feeling the additional protection of my post-op restrictions thatContinue reading “Meeting people where they’re at”

The lost boy and the invisible man

… And maybe be myself.  But who am I?  The boy (in) me is lost. I am struggling terribly with my gender-identity. I’ve been seeing all these masc folks (cis-men, trans-men, nonbinary transmasc persons) and they all seem so much more masculine that me — their looks, their voices.  I’m hating my voice. It soundsContinue reading “The lost boy and the invisible man”