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Arys is growing! Growing, growing, growing…  They can hardly believe the emotional & personal growth spurts they’ve been having over the past weeks.  They’re shedding — shedding their unhealthy patterns and automatic trauma responses as their pet snake is shedding her winter skin.  When a trigger stings, Arys stops and breathes, steps back a moment,Continue reading “Growth spurt(s)”

My email to the gym manager: [Subject: We need more concrete actions for inclusivity] ” Attention: Climbing Gym Management Hi!  Among other things, I am an AFAB non-binary trans-masculine climber, yogi, and athlete and I have been a member of these gyms for nearly four years (since summer 2019).  I am writing to you nowContinue reading “Changing the world, one action at a time”

I’m feeling more grounded, and more in the present moment, again.  Maybe all I really needed was a good night’s sleep and one whole restful day just slowing down and relaxing.  In the past ten days since coming back from my trip out West I had been feeling quite unsettled — physically exhausted, emotionally inContinue reading “Land again”

The intimate, sexual experiences I’ve recently had with my two genderqueer/non-binary/trans friends have brought me some gender affirmation that I hardly thought possible, and have thus opened up the door to the opportunity for deeper healing and broader exploration. However, I need to remind myself that these experiences are like “time bubbles”, due to pop,Continue reading “Time bubbles”

I’ve been wanting to write this post, or about these topics & feelings, for several weeks but I wasn’t ready until now — too much going on, maybe still too much to process. Now that these recents events have become self-contained time bubbles in a more clear way, or maybe more deeply integrated, I canContinue reading “Sleeping with them”

I don’t know how much of this is still the effect of the psychedelic therapy sessions I did with ketamine three weeks ago, but anyway I am still feeling extremely grounded and centered and living in the present like I have hardly ever before.  I have been feeling extremely, wonderfully loved: loved in a supportive,Continue reading “The present moment, and water under the bridge”

Traveling, at an airport again. This used to be one of the most upsetting locations/situations for me with respect to mis-gendering and gender dysphoria (apart from other issues). But not this morning: in the security line, I was directed by the employee who said to me, “This way, sir”!  I still do hate the useContinue reading ““This way, sir””

“  Today I have grown taller from walking with the trees.  “ [Karle Wilson Baker] This weekend, Arys grew taller from standing his ground.  They had felt extremely nervous and anxious and self-conscious about using the men’s changing room at the climbing gym where they used to go regularly when they were living in CaliforniaContinue reading ““Today I have grown taller””

I found this sticker, after my workout, on the bench under/among my belongings in the men’s changing room at the climbing gym where I used to go regularly when I was living in California and where I returned this past Saturday for a visit.  I’m not sure if someone dropped it or forgot it there,Continue reading “Proudly Queer: Climber, Yogi, Athlete”

Since starting this trip on Sunday, I haven’t once been called “ma’am” — not even at the airport! And actually, in the past three days, I’ve been referred to, or addressed, as a (young) man three times, once a day — the latest episode being this afternoon on the street with my photographer friend andContinue reading ““Walk like a man””