Author Archives: adventurerliberated

I’m back in the area of coastal California where I spent six years of my life before moving to Colorado recently. I’m here to logistically finalize my move to Colorado but I’m also saying Hi/Goodbye to some friends here who are among my best friends overall. Many of these friends are much older than myself,Continue reading “Reparenting”

“Leaving New York” by R.E.M. F…, it hurts.

Today is one of those days where having a “to-do” list, things that need to be done and cannot be postponed, will be a life-line. For the past week or so, anxiety and grief have been coming and going in a two-day cycle: one day is good, I feel excited and energetic, empowered and liberatedContinue reading “Two-day cycle: Pain again”

On the other hand, though, having those two meetings that might turn out to be painful or awkward is up to me, it’s my own choice (as long as the other persons involved confirm the availability they have given me for now). If I feel that I’m not ready to, or not interested in, havingContinue reading “P.S. (“The long Goodbye”)”

In a couple hours I’ll be going out for brunch with a new friend/colleague & her husband. Yesterday I hiked a 14er with one of my best buddies here. This upcoming week I have plans to spend a couple days with another of my favorite guy-friends here as well as plans with other climbing buddies.Continue reading ““The long Goodbye””

What the U.S. can — and should! — learn from the steps being made forward on reproductive rights in Latin America… https://www.npr.org/2022/07/06/1110155933/what-the-u-s-can-learn-from-abortion-rights-wins-in-latin-america

I had never even heard of the concept of “getting our needs met” until the round of psychotherapy I did in Europe in 2014-2015.  Of course, I had an instinctive understanding of getting my needs met and to some extent did it, and had always done it or tried to do it, like we allContinue reading “Getting our needs met”

I have buddies here. And it feels so good.  I haven’t had buddies like this since grad school — for over a decade. And this was one of the things I missed the most since finishing grad school: male friends with whom I could hang out easily, spontaneously, as peers, as if we were allContinue reading “Buddies”

The U.S. Supreme Court is on recess (i.e. on vacation). Thank goodness! It has done so much damage over the past few weeks, throwing this country back by decades, that one would almost wish they didn’t come back from their summer recess… What other damage this once-trustworthy organ of American democracy could bring to thisContinue reading “Fighting without guns”

[Spoiler alert: I mainly write about the end of this film.] “And then we danced” is one of the best movies I’ve seen in a while. So powerful and strong, yet so delicate and sensitive – like Mareb, the main character of this sweet film about love, friendship, authenticity, courage, and liberation. In my view,Continue reading ““And the we danced””