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“  Fuck Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go So make the best of this test, and don’t ask why It’s not a question, but a lesson learned in time It’s something unpredictable But in the end, it’s right I hope youContinue reading ““Good Riddance (Time of your Life)””

One year ago I was officially starting my second post-doc, which effectively felt like the begining of a second chance (at a career in academia) for me.  Today marks the first weekend in five weeks that I’m spending without being in the company of, and without sleeping with, a sexually/romantic partner. In a sense, it’sContinue reading “New beginning?”

I think it might be good for me to reread the (excellent) book “Polysecure” by Jessica Fern.   In this and other books about consensual nonmonogamy, two main reasons for people to practice consensual nonmonogamy are outlined, namely: being nonmonogamous as a lifestyle (e.g. for philosophical, social, political, or practical reasons) or being nonmonogamous as anContinue reading “Polyamorous — Work in Progress”

In all fairness, though, I need to add that I know I’m not alone — and this is something that not only my head knows — my heart also feels it.  Friends are showering me with love and it’s sinking in, I’m soaking it in and it does truly help.  I know I’m strong, butContinue reading “I know I’m not alone”

The morning and evenings are the worst moments. And maybe the mornings even worse than the evenings because at night at least I can let go, indulge my pain, allow myself to feel it, cry even, unwind, lean into the loving/supportive company of friends, and eventually go to sleep. But in the mornings, I wakeContinue reading “The mornings are the worst”

“Let everything happen to you:  beauty and terror.  Just keep going.  No feeling lasts forever.” [Rainer Maria Rilke] I know this too shall pass.  But today it hurts like hell and all I can do is hold myself together from falling apart. 

I knew it would hurt. I knew it going in.  When five weeks ago I accepted the explicit invitation from my European, genderqueer friend to sleep over — and sleep with them — after going out dancing with them at a queer club, I knew I was opening the door to a whole rainbow ofContinue reading “The time-bubble has popped”

Arys is growing! Growing, growing, growing…  They can hardly believe the emotional & personal growth spurts they’ve been having over the past weeks.  They’re shedding — shedding their unhealthy patterns and automatic trauma responses as their pet snake is shedding her winter skin.  When a trigger stings, Arys stops and breathes, steps back a moment,Continue reading “Growth spurt(s)”

My email to the gym manager: [Subject: We need more concrete actions for inclusivity] ” Attention: Climbing Gym Management Hi!  Among other things, I am an AFAB non-binary trans-masculine climber, yogi, and athlete and I have been a member of these gyms for nearly four years (since summer 2019).  I am writing to you nowContinue reading “Changing the world, one action at a time”

I’m feeling more grounded, and more in the present moment, again.  Maybe all I really needed was a good night’s sleep and one whole restful day just slowing down and relaxing.  In the past ten days since coming back from my trip out West I had been feeling quite unsettled — physically exhausted, emotionally inContinue reading “Land again”