The first time I hooked up with the gender-expansive gay guy from the chorus, he said to me just twice, “You’re a hot guy”, and it felt extremely affirming to me. I don’t see myself as a “hot guy” but hearing it explicitly from a gay man is validating of my gender-identity. At least inContinue reading “I’m not a “hot guy””
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The asexual hookup
[Trigger warning: sex/sexuality.] I am asexual. I know I keep saying this over and over again. But I feel I have to — and this irritates me and pains me — because I’m feeling invalidated by people over and over again, with some of the usual gaslighting that ace people so often get, e.g. “maybeContinue reading “The asexual hookup”
The ‘aro’ arrow
[Note: the author is claiming that the ‘aro label’ feels like a death sentence or lack or incapacity for themself, and not that aromantic people are lacking or in any way deficient!] It’s been a week of difficult emotions. So difficult, in fact, that I haven’t even been able to write. Last Sunday was aContinue reading “The ‘aro’ arrow”
The Little Prince and the Fox 