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Centennial of the LGBTQ+ rights movement in the U.S.

In these dark moments, more than ever we need to remember and celebrate the accomplishments and never forget the past, so here’s an excerpt from an article in LGBTQ Nation:  “ The centennial celebration of the Society for Human Rights is also the centennial of the official movement for LGBTQ+ equality in the United States. Continue reading “Centennial of the LGBTQ+ rights movement in the U.S.”

A new kind of “boys night out”

Last night I went to the movie theatre (for the first time since COVID!) with one of my fellow baritone singers from the gay men’s chorus and his partner (both cis-men) and a cis-woman friend of theirs. After initial introductions and small talk, we went to get drinks & food for the show and whileContinue reading “A new kind of “boys night out””

The lost boy and the invisible man

… And maybe be myself.  But who am I?  The boy (in) me is lost. I am struggling terribly with my gender-identity. I’ve been seeing all these masc folks (cis-men, trans-men, nonbinary transmasc persons) and they all seem so much more masculine that me — their looks, their voices.  I’m hating my voice. It soundsContinue reading “The lost boy and the invisible man”

Standing on the threshold: the day before

Another sleepless night, tossing and turning in bed. Restless and sleepless despite my physical tiredness.  It’s my emotions. So similar to the couple of days prior to my gender-affirming top-surgery in January 2023 and so similar to the last couple of days in Spain before moving to California in January 2016.  The main feeling IContinue reading “Standing on the threshold: the day before”

Gender-less, gender-full, gender-free

Last night, I danced Swing (& some Polka) with one of the gay men from our chorus.  In the evening we had another volunteer community singing event where some of us participated; then we went caroling for local businesses in a queer district in the city; and then we finally went to one of theContinue reading “Gender-less, gender-full, gender-free”

The asexual hookup

[Trigger warning: sex/sexuality.] I am asexual.  I know I keep saying this over and over again. But I feel I have to — and this irritates me and pains me — because I’m feeling invalidated by people over and over again, with some of the usual gaslighting that ace people so often get, e.g. “maybeContinue reading “The asexual hookup”

Trans Day Of Remembrance 2024

This is my third Trans Day Of Remembrance in Colorado. And probably the one I’m feeling, and celebrating, the most — at least, until now.  The first one, in 2022, I was sick/recovering from COVID.  Last year, TDOR 2023 almost passed unnoticed for me because I was so swamped with work.  This year, I’m fullyContinue reading “Trans Day Of Remembrance 2024”

Turning the sieve into a bucket?

Last night I had the first full, regular rehearsal with the gay men’s chorus again after the retreat two weeks ago. And it was lovely.  Having reached out to a few trusted members before the retreat and then going to the retreat itself have really helped me feel more comfortable with myself within this choir. Continue reading “Turning the sieve into a bucket?”

Baby steps forward?

Maybe there are some improvements for how I’m feeling in the gay men’s chorus.  Once again yesterday I was a nervous wreck before rehearsal and feeling anxious and isolated during rehearsal to the point where it was a huge effort to even sing and I escaped to hide in my car during the halfway-break.  ThereContinue reading “Baby steps forward?”