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When I was hanging out with one of my good non-binary/trans-masculine friends here on Saturday, they made a very insightful comment about one of the important aspects in the relationships among us in our gender-expansive group and particularly between those of us who feel similarly a little more trans-masculine — namely, that we can safelyContinue reading ““Practicing being a dude””

“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” [Lou Holtz] This quote came up a few months ago in one of the guided meditations I often do in the morning and it has been coming back to my mind frequently in these days — it has been feeling particularlyContinue reading “How we carry our loads”

[Trigger warning: boundary violation; victim shaming/blaming; unwanted attention.] It feels paradoxical, like an oxymoron, yet it is real: this morning I feel a muddle of emotions, yet extreme clarity as well. Maybe it’s just too soon to express this clarity — but I need to jot down some of these emotions, so I will.  ForContinue reading “Violating boundaries & shaming the victim”

[Trigger warning (depending on how one interprets the lyrics of the song): body image/shape; unwanted attention; objectification; … ] The song “Troublemaker doppelgänger” by Lucy Dacus is one of those that really gives me a visceral sense of the expression “to pull at the strings of one heart”. This song pulls at the strings ofContinue reading ““Troublemaker doppelgänger””

[Trigger warning: body image/shape; sex.] [Spoiler alert: although the ending of the movie is not discussed, some details of the film are given.] Last night I felt the need to relax with some light-hearted movie that would be easy to watch without being dumb, so I decided to risk it with the film “Good luck,Continue reading ““Good luck, Leo Grande!””

“There’s some important, and vulnerable, personal information that I would like to share with you also because it might become evident in our professional/academic interactions and work.  As you probably know already, I use “they” pronouns because I identify as non-binary. What I’d like to share here is that I have recently started gender-affirming HRTContinue reading ““Hey coworkers, I’m on HRT!””

My weekend turned out much better than it had started on Saturday morning.  First of all, after writing my blog post, I went to one of my neighbors here, who is wonderfully kind and always encouraging me to stop by and say Hi to him & his wife, and told him very simply that IContinue reading “(Re)Assembling the pieces”

Loneliness and the lack of a regular pattern in human interactions or relationships are the biggest source, or trigger, of anxiety for me. And it’s been so my entire life — which is one of the reasons this blog is called “The Little Prince and the Fox”!  I have been consciously aware of this factContinue reading “Missing “The Little Prince and the Fox””

[Trigger warning: anxiety] This morning I had to go get fasting blood work done so I got up, took a quick cold shower (a new habit I’ve started this week and that seems to be helping how I feel), and then rode my motorcycle to the medical center. And back. All on an empty stomach. Continue reading “Small steps, big steps”

[Trigger warnings: mental health, neurodivergence, pandemic] I’ve often read and heard about mental health issues, or mental illness, affecting relationships, disrupting them, straining them, sometimes even completely tearing them apart.  It wasn’t until the pandemic and my own mental health issues, though, that I became fully aware of these impacts, also through my own personalContinue reading “Mental health and relationships”