First impression

The main feeling I have as a first impression after my first rehearsal with the gay men’s chorus is that I’m not a gay guy after all. 

Gay men seem to be so strongly defined by their sexuality, or sexual orientation — allosexual and gay. 

I, instead, feel more defined by my transmasculinity, i.e. by my transmasculine gender-identity. 

And my sexuality, or sexual orientation, feels more strongly ace now. 

The way I feel is that I am a sex-positive ace transguy who enjoys being around other guys, which is not the same as a gay guy. And my identification as an ace transguy who likes to be around other guys explains why I feel so comfortable and safe around straight men: precisely because they are straight and I’m a guy, so I will be safe in my ace sexuality/identity around them and can have uncomplicated close friendships with them.