… And I also know the reason why the lack of space for me, the fact of there not being any room for mutuality, for me to be really seen, in these two relationships is so painful or disappointing for me right now: it’s because with both of these persons there has been intellectual and emotional closeness and even physical attraction. We’ve been important for each other in several different ways. But neither of them knows about my profound realizations and important changes, particularly around my gender, from the past few months, and yet they are both people to whom I’d be yearning to say, “I’m a boy! Do you see the boy I am?”
And maybe even, “Do you see the boy that you fell in love with?”…
But that may be too much…